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Okay, I just read this comment: - simply
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polarishadow
Okay, I just read this comment:
"Most people instead of relating to you will relay their own personal experiences to you as advice, thinking that they are relating to you even though they obviously aren't"


How the hell is someone supposed to relate to you without paralleling your experience with their own? IE: "reading yourself" into the situation? Is that not how you relate to people? If someone has had a similar experience or the same experience as I, I'd want their input unless
A: they are an idiot B:  it's clear the person doesn't legitimately care and they just want to talk about themselves (I think this must be what the person was getting at, but it's stupid to think this is what everyone does)

I didn't want to be abusive on someone else's blog, so I vented on my own. Okay, I'm done.
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liberty From: liberty Date: September 30th, 2007 08:33 pm (UTC) (Link)
B is what he meant, and B is what most people do.

The post was about people giving me unsolicited advice that doesn't apply to me -- i.e. I am doing whatever I do during the day, and my mom comes up to me and asks me questions about Darren, and then finishes with "long distance relationships never work".

OR I am at a party and some people from camp (PEOPLE WHO KNOW HIM) interrogate me about what we're doing, are we staying together, etc etc and then finish with a long tirade about how oh those things never work, and this one time they had a friend, etc etc

I think using your experiences to relate to someone else is a great idea. I think using those experiences to try to give expert advice to someone is a bad idea.

In my entire life, I have never taken another person's advice about something serious. You just can't trust most people to guide you correctly, because they have no idea what they are talking about.
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